Why I love when people read me the wrong way :)

Back Story… this girl has three kids and was living with her dead beat ex husband expecting him to still be willing to help out with the kids. He decided she has to work X amount of hours causing her to get 2 jobs, raise the boys herself, clean the house, and take care of all the bills. All while he sits on his immature (ex military) ass playing video games until 5am and sleeping until 2pm. So he moves back in with mommy and daddy so they can continue to change his diapers and feed him his formula.

Main Post: What should I do now I’m single? .... Work 2 jobs go to school and never have time with my kids... Sounds great! Can’t wait...

My replies:
 “As a single mom that is something you have to do. We have to make the hard choices. Bust your ass to give your kids everything, or slack on everything and hurt your kids futures.”

Her friends are saying similar, yet less blunt things as well

“Just need to suck it up. You are a single mom”

“Brandi I am sorry, but from how many times you have mentioned this in the past 24 hours it just makes it look like you are looking for pity. Try being a single mom in a shelter. Being a single mom is hard, and it means doing things you wish you didn’t have to do. But stop complaining about it. You are older than me and you need to act like it. What you have done is great, but you are not done yet. Stop letting Bobbi weasel his way back in like he has in the past. Grow some balls and be the best single mom you can be.”

She says it is not pity just regret and hating herself

“Don’t regret him leaving; you should have made him leave years ago”

A MALE friend of her said this:
 “I don't know you Tiana and I know I'm out of place by saying this, but every encouraging thing you've said on this post makes you seem like a bitch. I don't know about you, but my friends wouldn't be putting me down, they would try and help. I already like Holly and I don't even know her, but if I met you, I'd probably be inclined to call you ugly.  Oh, and I held back a lot on that post, so if it pisses you off, just think...in my head it was a lot worse.”

My reply to not very attractive male friend: 
“Jason, nothing you said has pissed me off. You are entitled to your opinion. If I really sounded as bitchy as you think I was would I have had 2 separate people like more than one of my replies? I am a single mom and it is not a cake walk. To think it is supposed to be easy is naive and something a guy (such as yourself) would never understand. We have to be the mom, the dad, the friend, the bread winner, the good guy, and the bad guy. It is the most work a person will ever have to go through. If you want your child(ren) to have the best lives that you can give them then you have to suck it up and grow some balls. That is all I am telling Brandi. I know she can do it or I never would have said it. If I did not believe Brandi was capable of doing everything a single mom can do I would not have said anything. I also know what hell Bobbi has put Brandi through over the years, and even though he has been mooching off of her and making her life hell she has in fact been acting as a single mom since she married his loser ass. Brandi can and will be the absolute best single mom she can be. She just has to get it through her head that she can and understand that it is not easy and is not going to be easy. She will, without a doubt, miss out on things she doesn’t want to, she will have to make the tough decisions, and she will feel like she is not spending any time with her kids. However, for her to give her kids everything she can she has to take care of herself. That means working, possibly, more than one job, continue with school to get her education, and do everything she must to better her life. If her life is shit how can she expect her kids lives to not be shit. So If I am a bitch for telling her the truth then I am a bitch. So hate me all you want and feel inclined to call me ugly. I saw your pictures and you are not much to sneeze at either. I have known Brandi since the 6th grade and she is a fighter not a quitter. Thank you. And God Bless you for being offended by a woman who speaks her mind.  P.S. Jason, I also know if Brandi is offended by anything I say she is (and has) going to tell me so.”

I just can't get enough.

I have an addiction. That addiction is boys. I ALWAYS have at least one boy that I am crushing on. To be more honest, they are celeb crushes. :)

Starting back in Elementary school its was Devon Sawa, JTT, Seth Green, Rider Strong, and Matthew Lawrence. Around middle school I was introduced to Elijah Woods (whom my son is named after), Jonathan Jackson, Joshua Jackson, Mark Paul Gossler, Johnny Depp, and about 15 other celebs. High School the list just kept getting longer and longer. I had one or two major crushes, but there were always extras just in case one of the main ones said something in an interview, or did a bad movie, that upset me.

I also had a crush on the majority of popular boys in school. I was the awkward girl though so none of them paid any attention to me. I had no clue how to dress myself, I looked like a female Kurt Cobain. I wore ripped jeans and flannel shirts, I had dirty unkempt hair, and my shoes were falling apart, had duct tape on them, and I drew all over them. It wasn't until around 16 or 17 that I learned how important it is for a girl to look like a girl.

Getting off topic though. Right now I have a major Celebrity crush on one Mr. Joshua Ryan Hutcherson. He may only be 19 1/2 (and me at 28) but he is of legal age and hot as hell. As a young boy I always thought he was adorable and just kept getting cuter and cuter the older he got. Then recently with all the attention from the Hunger Games and him dressing more dignified I started to notice something, he is very handsome and very (extremely) striking. His eyes are beautiful and he has the most adorable crooked smile. He is stunning.

He has been an actor since he was 9 and his home town is only 20 miles from me. In less than 10 years he has been in 33 shows/movies such as RV, Journey to the Center of the Earth, Journey 2, The Kids Are Alright, Bridge to Terabithia, and Zathura. In my opinion he has a lot of talent at his young age. He has been convincing in everything I have seen him in. He is currently playing Peeta in The Hunger Games. I never knew that the movie was based off of books, but as soon as I found out I bought the books and spent 4 days doing nothing but reading the trilogy. I was drawn to his character, the innocence and determination to keep the love of his life alive. He has said in interviews that this character is so much like him that it was easy to play him. Also that Peeta is the only character he has done before that was as much like himself as he was. What woman doesn't want a man that has been in love with her since the moment he first laid eyes on her and will do anything to protect her and keep her happy? I know that is exactly what I would want in a guy.

It would make my whole world just to get to meet him, get his autograph, and a picture with him. Meeting Josh is actually on my bucket list. I am not a crazy stalker and can't afford to travel so it will probably never happen, but it is on there non the less. Now I will share some pictures of him :-)

Looking Dignified

One of my favorite poses

I love a man in glasses

Favorite Pose

With Bleached hair for his role in Hunger Games