David and I eventually did get married. Yeah, I know, I was stupid. We
were 23 and we got married on Christmas Eve 2007. We had originally planned on
getting married the following September, but my mom forgetting who she was
talking to brought up the idea of eloping. So of course we jumped on that idea.
It would save us money and we didn’t have to worry about inviting anyone. Three
weeks after we got married he decided he couldn’t be who he wanted to be.
Meaning he couldn’t sleep with every woman under the sun. He left for a woman
in Texas that he had never met in person.
I fought with him for
years to give me a divorce. I told him since I paid everything for us to get
married he could pay for the divorce. I also told him how to get us divorced
for free. He always had some excuse as to why he could not file the paper work.
He didn’t want to remarry so he was in no rush, he had no time to go to the
court house, or he forgot how I told him to do it for free. You name it, he had
the excuse. The ex I moved away from would always yell at me for not being
divorced and accusing me of wanting to stay married so I couldn’t marry him.
That was not it at all; I just refused to fork out more money.
Finally after moving back
home I decided that I had ENOUGH of being married. I wanted my last name back.
I wanted my divorce. I never felt married anyways. Three weeks is not long
enough to feel married. I felt trapped. So when I was at court to try and get
custody back of my son I went and picked up the papers for divorce and asked
out I filed to get the fees waived since I am technically below poverty level.
Within three weeks I had
all the paper filled out and notarized. All I had to do was get back to the
courtroom which was over an hour away and get everything filed. I told David
that I had the papers ready to go so he offered to pick me up and drop the
papers off. So we got to the court house, had everything checked, got the
papers filed, and David was served right then and there. I called three weeks
later to check on everything and they tell me there is no record at all of him
being served. Are you kidding me? He got served in the lobby of the court
house, by one of the Sherriff’s officers that were right there! So we had to
wait until they could MAIL him the same papers he was handed. It took months,
but we were finally going to court to get divorced!
David also decided to not
fight me for custody. We decided it was best to keep the custody out of the
court room. For the first time in 8 years we were able to agree on what was
best for our son. I was amazed. I also noticed that he was trying harder than
he ever had to be a part of his sons life. I was amazed at how much he had
changed just from him not being able to see his son for a year, since we moved
out of state. I was proud of who he was becoming and I was happy to finally be
divorced!