Some people may question this, but the following picture says it all:
13 reasons why my dad is more of a dad to Booger:
1. He is there when my son is sick/sad/happy/angry/hurt/etc.
2. He has been there every step of the way (except for when we lived in Arizona)
3. He makes sure my son has clothes on his back, shoes on his feet, food in his belly, and a roof over his head (given that I ask to borrow the money to buy said items, which isn't often, but he does let us live with him)
4. He has never missed a birthday party
5. He is there whenever he is needed
6. Even when he is hurt or doesn't feel good he makes sure that he spends time with my son, does things my son enjoys, listens to my son ramble on 24/7/365 about whatever he finds interesting at that time.
7. He always makes sure to teach my son right from wrong and explain to him how to do something different
8. He is there for my son the way he was there for me and my brother
9. He knows what my son likes and doesn't like
10. He knows about (and how to handle) my sons ADHD, ODD, and anxiety issues
11. He knows what to do to help me when my son is having an 'episode'
12. He uses love and understanding instead of intimidation or fear
13. He knows my son is terrified of needles and goes with us to appointments where he might have to get a shot to help keep my son calm and is there to hold him when he is done
13 reasons why Boogers "dad" isn't much of a dad:
1. If my son is lucky he sees him 2 days a week, for MAYBE four hours each visit
2. He never calls to talk to my son or text me to ask how he is doing
3. I have to constantly text him to find out if he can take off work when my son has to have out patient surgery
4. He has no idea what my son likes or doesn't like
5. He uses intimidation and fear to get his way
6. He has been to ONE doctors appointment
7. He can't even remember how old my son is or his actual birthday, I have to remind him every single year
8. He has no idea how my son is doing in school
9. He chooses girls and his social life over spending time with his son
10. He "can't" help out if I am tight on money and need to buy my son something
11. Won't tell me if he lost a job and that I'm not getting child support until I ask him why I hadn't gotten anything in weeks
12. Blames me for the fact that he is a shitty parent
13. Missed birthday because he "had plans"
I don't care what the name of the holiday is, my dad is the one we recognize. My son has never asked if we were getting something for his "dad" and if I decided to ask if we are he always answers with a no, then asks what we can get my dad. When he does see his "dad" he asks if his sister is going to be there, if she isn't then my son doesn't want to go.
So, for all those non-biological and grandfathers out there that are helping raise kids.. HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO YOU!
