Main Post: What
should I do now I’m single? .... Work 2 jobs go to school and never have time
with my kids... Sounds great! Can’t wait...
My replies:
“As a single mom that is something you have to do. We have to make the hard choices. Bust your ass to give your kids everything, or slack on everything and hurt your kids futures.”
“As a single mom that is something you have to do. We have to make the hard choices. Bust your ass to give your kids everything, or slack on everything and hurt your kids futures.”
Her friends are saying similar,
yet less blunt things as well
“Just need to suck it up. You are
a single mom”
“Brandi I am sorry, but from how
many times you have mentioned this in the past 24 hours it just makes it look
like you are looking for pity. Try being a single mom in a shelter. Being a
single mom is hard, and it means doing things you wish you didn’t have to do. But stop complaining about it. You
are older than me and you need to act like it. What you have done is great, but
you are not done yet. Stop letting Bobbi weasel his way back in like he has in
the past. Grow some balls and be the best single mom you can be.”
She says
it is not pity just regret and hating herself
“Don’t regret him leaving; you should have made him leave
years ago”
A MALE friend of her said this:
“I don't know you Tiana and I know I'm out of place by saying this, but every encouraging thing you've said on this post makes you seem like a bitch. I don't know about you, but my friends wouldn't be putting me down, they would try and help. I already like Holly and I don't even know her, but if I met you, I'd probably be inclined to call you ugly. Oh, and I held back a lot on that post, so if it pisses you off, just think...in my head it was a lot worse.”
My reply to not very attractive male friend:
“Jason, nothing you said has pissed me off. You are entitled to your opinion. If I really sounded as bitchy as you think I was would I have had 2 separate people like more than one of my replies? I am a single mom and it is not a cake walk. To think it is supposed to be easy is naive and something a guy (such as yourself) would never understand. We have to be the mom, the dad, the friend, the bread winner, the good guy, and the bad guy. It is the most work a person will ever have to go through. If you want your child(ren) to have the best lives that you can give them then you have to suck it up and grow some balls. That is all I am telling Brandi. I know she can do it or I never would have said it. If I did not believe Brandi was capable of doing everything a single mom can do I would not have said anything. I also know what hell Bobbi has put Brandi through over the years, and even though he has been mooching off of her and making her life hell she has in fact been acting as a single mom since she married his loser ass. Brandi can and will be the absolute best single mom she can be. She just has to get it through her head that she can and understand that it is not easy and is not going to be easy. She will, without a doubt, miss out on things she doesn’t want to, she will have to make the tough decisions, and she will feel like she is not spending any time with her kids. However, for her to give her kids everything she can she has to take care of herself. That means working, possibly, more than one job, continue with school to get her education, and do everything she must to better her life. If her life is shit how can she expect her kids lives to not be shit. So If I am a bitch for telling her the truth then I am a bitch. So hate me all you want and feel inclined to call me ugly. I saw your pictures and you are not much to sneeze at either. I have known Brandi since the 6th grade and she is a fighter not a quitter. Thank you. And God Bless you for being offended by a woman who speaks her mind. P.S. Jason, I also know if Brandi is offended by anything I say she is (and has) going to tell me so.”
“I don't know you Tiana and I know I'm out of place by saying this, but every encouraging thing you've said on this post makes you seem like a bitch. I don't know about you, but my friends wouldn't be putting me down, they would try and help. I already like Holly and I don't even know her, but if I met you, I'd probably be inclined to call you ugly. Oh, and I held back a lot on that post, so if it pisses you off, just think...in my head it was a lot worse.”
My reply to not very attractive male friend:
“Jason, nothing you said has pissed me off. You are entitled to your opinion. If I really sounded as bitchy as you think I was would I have had 2 separate people like more than one of my replies? I am a single mom and it is not a cake walk. To think it is supposed to be easy is naive and something a guy (such as yourself) would never understand. We have to be the mom, the dad, the friend, the bread winner, the good guy, and the bad guy. It is the most work a person will ever have to go through. If you want your child(ren) to have the best lives that you can give them then you have to suck it up and grow some balls. That is all I am telling Brandi. I know she can do it or I never would have said it. If I did not believe Brandi was capable of doing everything a single mom can do I would not have said anything. I also know what hell Bobbi has put Brandi through over the years, and even though he has been mooching off of her and making her life hell she has in fact been acting as a single mom since she married his loser ass. Brandi can and will be the absolute best single mom she can be. She just has to get it through her head that she can and understand that it is not easy and is not going to be easy. She will, without a doubt, miss out on things she doesn’t want to, she will have to make the tough decisions, and she will feel like she is not spending any time with her kids. However, for her to give her kids everything she can she has to take care of herself. That means working, possibly, more than one job, continue with school to get her education, and do everything she must to better her life. If her life is shit how can she expect her kids lives to not be shit. So If I am a bitch for telling her the truth then I am a bitch. So hate me all you want and feel inclined to call me ugly. I saw your pictures and you are not much to sneeze at either. I have known Brandi since the 6th grade and she is a fighter not a quitter. Thank you. And God Bless you for being offended by a woman who speaks her mind. P.S. Jason, I also know if Brandi is offended by anything I say she is (and has) going to tell me so.”
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